'Twas the night before Christmas, and all through the town
Worn out adoptive parents felt like they might drown.
The rages and meltdowns filled their homes with dread
The wife and I thought, let’s escape for a cruise instead.
The stockings were hung by the chimney with a glare
Because the feelings of tender care had gone somewhere.
Mom knows it should be a happy time of year
Yet these problems were filling her heart with fear.
The children weren’t nestled all snug in their beds
They were screaming and crying in mine instead.
And Mama in her kerchief and I in my cap
Couldn’t remember our last peaceful nap.
When out on the roof I heard such a clatter
I sprang from my bed to see which child might splatter.
Away to the window I flew like a flash
Reached out just in time to prevent a big crash.
The moon on the breast of the new-fallen snow
Gave hope that perhaps there was still more to know.
The parenting books lined my shelves filled with dust
Perhaps the key is to do what’s in them, I must!
No little ol’ driver lively and quick
Trust-based parenting - it is the trick.
No reindeer were following a little old man
It was time for me to stick with my plan.
Come on, eye contact, matching, and sensory play
It’s time I make room for you each and every day.
The proactive strategies must fill my life for a while
So Mom can return to our lives with a smile.
You think Dancer and Prancer would help in your case
But role-play and nurture must take their place.
To the top of the porch, to the top of the wall
Let’s practice and practice for the sake of us all.
As dry leaves that before the wild hurricane fly
Fear met with “felt safety” will head for the sky
It takes much time, I won’t tell you a lie
But it’s worth it if you’ll just give it a try.
In more than a twinkling, I heard in my home
The spirit of Christmas whisper a familiar tone.
As I turned my head with a gleam in my eye
My wife stood close by with a tear in her eye.
"It was worth it." she said, "all the work and the pain
Our children have learned and are making great gain."
It wasn’t eight reindeer pulling a sleigh
But a trust-based model has paved the way.
I spoke not a word, but went straight to my knees
God brought us Miss Karyn with lots of strategies
But what He really taught us through grit and sheer guts
Was there was stuff in our history that was making us nuts.
So deal with your past and you can live in the present
Get on with your life and the joy of advent.
This Christmas may be filled with hyper kids and teens
But a secure parent can nurture even the tweens.
This parent trainer and her hubby are taking a rest
To regroup and revive for their next big quest.
We’re praying your worries soon drift out of sight
Happy Christmas to all and to all a good night!