Run in such a way that you may win.
Simple, yet profound to me this morning.... I couldn't get my eyes off it! It became my meditation as I paced around my pool in my nightgown, hair standing on end, coffee in hand. Not a pretty picture I know. (It was still dark in case you're worrying about my poor neighbors!)
Run in such a way that you may win! I've read it, but it's the b part of the verse in I Corinthians 9:24, not the part I've usually focused on. How do we run in such a way to win, Lord?
My handsome son, Dane, was a great runner in high school. He ran to win. He prepared. He pushed himself. He sweat. He sometimes vomited. He never gave up. He set his goal and he went for it.
We're proud of the medals he has to show for it! We were especially proud that he overcame tremendous obstacles in his life to get there, in spite of his many limitations from fetal alcohol in utero and a neglectful beginning in a Romanian orphanage. It was exciting to see him excel.
Our daughter, Megan, pushes herself to win. Brilliant, beautiful, overcomer, great education, great job, good-looking and amazing husband. A survivor of a tough family journey with a high-risk special needs brother. She presses on. A winner indeed!
Soon my thoughts moved to parenting. How do we parent to win? How do we win when we're tired, stressed, and hitting obstacles we've hit for like the millionth time in a row?
We do what we know to do. We keep ourselves healthy emotionally so we can see the need beneath the behavior. We rely on the God above who has stored our every tear in His bottle (Psalm 56:8). We connect with our kids before we correct. We use calming strategies when they've gone offline. We work proactively to build the skills they still need. In short, we run in such a way that we may win. We prepare. We push ourselves. We sweat. We may sometimes vomit. We never give up. We set our goal and we go for it.
"And everyone who competes in the games exercises self-control in all things. They then do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable." 1 Corinthians 9:25
How do you run to win when parenting from a hard place?
P.S. Don't forget to hydrate! Dehydration leads to a host of behavioral escalations.
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