Some of my greatest childhood Easter memories are of getting all dressed up in my new Easter dress and heading to church with my family. Momma would get my brother, Ronny, and me all gussied up, and we'd first pose for our annual Easter picture in front of Daddy's roses that he'd pampered for years.
Timing Matters! Ya know that 'ol saying, "Timing is EVERYTHING." Well it really is, especially in parenting.
Speaking of timing, I really am not sure I have time to write this blog before I head to an intervention early this Saturday morning. I haven't even had my coffee yet, but I was reading my Jesus Calling App on my phone and this quote got me thinking of our parenting.
It's the holidays which means most parents of kids from hard places are struggling. Me too. Hopefully your family had a good Christmas, but I know many of you are worn out. Even if your high-risk child, teen, or young adult made it through Christmas Day, you may have had the morning-after-meltdown which feels like it robbed the fun moments you did experience.
I was telling my Facebook friends yesterday that I might come up with a bloggette. You know, when I just have something quick to say, but don't have time to really write, think, edit, be exceptional, driven, perfectionistic, find the WOW factor, be concerned that I found the right pic than won't get me sued for not crediting properly - you know, stuff like that! So here goes. (Don't get the red pen out, teacher friends!) HOLIDAYS!
Simple, yet profound to me this morning.... I couldn't get my eyes off it! It became my meditation as I paced around my pool in my nightgown, hair standing on end, coffee in hand. Not a pretty picture I know. (It was still dark in case you're worrying about my poor neighbors!)
Do you know anyone who could use a break on this tough parenting journey? Feel like you need to know more, do more, be more for your kids from hard places? Want to spend a week with parents who are "in the same boat?" If so, get in the boat next February with us! Debra and Alan, Angie, and Tammy are excited to announce the details of our PACT Parent Training and Respite Cruise. Click PACT Cruise for information, bios, and session titles.
S.E.E. You on the Seas! Sometimes on an adoptive or foster parenting journey we become so overwhelmed it is hard to SEE our way through - especially if you don't have a community of people who understand the kinds of challenges you are facing with your child from a hard place.
Alan and I have recently joined the 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team. Today I'm sharing a guest post I wrote for their blog. Hope you'll check out their site and learn from many amazing parents and writers. Deb APRIL 2, 2014 (Guest post on 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting)
"Mommy, where do babies come from? Was I in your tummy? Do I have Daddy's eyes?"
These perfectly normal and expected questions can make an adoptive parent squirm. How do I tell my child she is adopted? How much do I tell my son if his past was painful? When do I tell and how do I help him understand?
A couple of weeks ago, I took Dane to get his dog’s toenails trimmed. Now Hershey, Dane’s chocolate lab/shar-pei mix, is apparently a dog from a hard place, at least when it comes to toenails! We’ve tried multiple groomers, and we use all of our best trust-based parenting strategies of "felt safety" on him.
Okay, let's be honest. How many of you just groaned at this title?
Even playing with a high-risk child can become a battleground, but if you are parenting a child who came to you with deficits in sensory processing, brain development, and attachment, play must become a high priority.
We're often advised to not look back. We can fill our Facebook pages with cliches and quotes that encourage us to never look back - you're not going that way! Keep on keepin' on. Look to the future. Today I'm giving all of us on a hard parenting journey permission to look back.
Ever have one of those proud parenting moments where you absolutely want to crawl under a rock? I mean, it's like something highjacked your sanity and you can't believe what you just did or what just came out of your mouth.
I'm here to share with you that you are not alone!
Did you ever plan something and it didn’t turn out the way you planned?
I plan a lot of things. I’m sort of a “Can do, get ‘er done” type of gal. I can plan a church fellowship, a big event, or just a fun night of Mexican Train Dominoes that goes well into the next morning with my dearest friends.
I'm constantly approached by parents who want to toss out a behavior problem and have me come up with the best answer as to how the parent should deal with that particular behavior. They are asking, "How do you fix __________? Fill in with anything ranging from "My child won't get dressed for school" to "My teen is using dangerous drugs and hanging out with unsafe kids."