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God, Are you Nice or Mean?

Through a journey of joys, tears, struggle and hopelessness, Debra Delulio Jones found herself shaking her fist in the air and screaming, "God, are You nice or mean?"

Her adopted son didn't know how to trust in the love of his parents due to his early abandonment and attachment issues. In his confusion he would ask, "Mommy, are you nice or mean?" As Debra learned ways to connect to her son, she realized a twenty year course in clinging to God paralleled her parenting journey.

She came to understand that her doubts about God were rooted in fear and pain, just like her son's maladaptive behaviors.


Online Resources

Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development, directed by David Cross, PhD

Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development - DVD Sales

Empowered to Connect –adoption and foster care resources  

Child Trauma Academy, directed by Dr. Bruce Perry, M.D., Ph. D.

Dr. Curt Thompson, Founder of Being Known and author of Anatomy of the Soul

Deborah D. Gray -- specializing in attachment, grief, and trauma issues

Attach -- Association for Treatment and Training in the Attachment of Children

Dr. Mary Ann Block, Medical director and top-selling author

Tapestry Adoption and Foster Care Ministry at Irving Bible Church

The Out-of-Sync Child, Carol Stock Kranowitz, M.A.

Sensory Processing Disorder Foundation

Sensory Processing Disorder Resource Center

SI Focus Magazine

The Therapy Shoppe -- an assortment of therapy merchandise and specialty toys and games

The Theraplay® Institute -- building strong families and emotionally healthy children

The Alert Program -- clearly defined steps for teaching self-regulation awareness

Dr. Caroline Leaf – author of Switch on Your Brain

21 Days to a Toxic-Free Mind by Dr. Caroline Leaf

Wilbarger Brushing Protocol

Sensory Stories

Infant Massage -- bonding with your baby through infant massage

Weighted Blankets -- the natural aid for sensory relaxation and restful sleep

Chewelry (necklaces and bracelets for oral motor sensory input)

Fetal Alcohol Syndrome Consultation, Education, and Training Services, Inc

National Organization on Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (NOFAS)

Minnesota Organization on Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (MOFAS)

Special Education Law

Show Hope – Shaohannah’s Hope: A Movement to Care for Orphans

Christian Alliance for Orphans – unites more than 100 respected Christian organizations committed to adoption, foster care, and global orphan care

Embrace – the church reclaiming the care of orphans and waiting children

Saddleback Church Orphan Care – Southern California

Legacy 685 Adoption Ministry, Houston’s First Baptist church


(available from The Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development at TCU.  www.child.tcu.edu/store/)

Healing Family Series:

Trust-Based Parenting: Creating Lasting Changes in Your Child’s Behaviors

TBRI®: An Overview

Children From Hard Places and the Brain

Attachment: Why it Matters

A Sensory World: Making Sense of Sensory Disorders

Playful Interaction

Healthy Touch

TBRI for Teens

Lecture Series:

Empowering, Connecting & Correcting Principles

The Attachment Dance

Facilitating Behavioral Change

Healing Research

Sensory Integration

The Neurochemistry of Fear


Professional Articles

Debra's articles in Fostering Families Today:

Recommended Books

Bailey, Becky A., Ph.D., I Love You Rituals: Fun Activities for Parents and Children That: Boost brain potential, Encourage cooperation and caring, Promote learning and literacy, Increase attention dn decrease power struggles, Build bonds of unconditional love, (Harper Collins Publishers, Inc, 2000)

Gray, Deborah D., Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today’s Parents, (Perspectives Press, Inc., 2002).

Gray, Deborah D., Nurturing Adoptions: Creating Resilience after Neglect and Trauma, (Perspectives Press, Inc., 2007).

Karen, Robert, Ph.D., Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love, (Oxford University Press, 1994).

Kranowitz, Carol Stock, M.A. and Lucy Jane Miller, Ph. D., OTR, The Out-of-Sync Child: Recognizing and Coping with Sensory Processing Disorder, Revised Edition, (Penguin Group, Inc., 2005). 

Kranowitz, Carol Stock, M.A., The Out-of-Sync Child Has Fun, Revised Edition: Activities for Kids with Sensory Processing Disorder, (Penguin Group, Inc., 2006).

Leaf, Caroline, Dr., Who Switched Off My Brain: Controlling Toxic Thoughts and Emotions, (Inprov, Ltd., 2009)

Leaf, Caroline, Dr., Switch On Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health, (Baker Books, 2013)

Perry, Bruce D., M.D., Ph.D. and Maia Szalavitz, The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist’s Notebook--What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us About Loss, Love and Healing, (Basic Books, 2006).

Perry, Bruce D., M.D., Ph.D. and Maia Szalavitz, Born for Love: Why Empathy is Essential - and Endangered, (HarperCollins Publishers, 2011).

Purvis, Karyn B., Ph.D., David R. Cross, Ph. D., and Wendy Lyons Sunshine, The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family, (McGraw-Hill, 2007).

Purvis, Dr. Karyn with Michael and Amy Monroe, Created to Connect: A Christian’s Guide to The Connected Child, (Empowered to Connect™, 2010, free downloadable pdf file at http://www.empoweredtoconnect.org/guide).

Rowell, Katja, M.D. Love Me, Feed Me: The Adoptive Parent’s Guide to ending the worry about Weight, Picky Eating, Power Struggles and More, (Family Feeding Dynamics, LLC, Saint Paul, MN, 2012)

Siegel, Daniel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D., No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, (Bantam Books, 2014)

Siegel, Daniel, M.D. and Mary Hartzell, M.Ed., Parenting From the Inside Out, (Penguin Group Inc., 2003).

Siegel, Daniel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D., The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, (Delacorte Press, 2011).

Siegel, Daniel J. M.D., Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain, (Penguin Group Inc., 2013)

Thompson, Curt, M.D., Anatomy of the Soul: Surprising Connections Between Neuroscience and Spiritual Practices, (Tyndale Momentum, 2010)

Thompson, Curt, M.D. The Soul of Shame: Retelling the Stories We Believe About Ourselves, (Intervarsity Press, 2015)

Van Der Kolk, Bessel, M.D. The Body Keeps the Score: Brian, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, (Penguin Group, LLC, 2014)